A List To Live By In 2012 and Beyond. . . .

The older I get the more I’m learning that goals are better than resolutions.  Who can keep resolutions anyways…goals can be reformed and reshaped.  Below is a great list written by SueZette Robotham of things that we can do as women, well anyone really, to live fulfilled lives in 2012 and beyond.

ARTICLE SOURCE: To read the full original article written by SueZette Robotham published on December 30, 2011 on CentricTV click here.

1. Be authentically YOU
Understand that you are perfectly imperfect. Are there things you can improve about yourself? Of course there are. We all deal with something. While naming a negative personality flaw is a major step, it’s not enough. We must put in work to remedy it.

2. Let Go of Drama
Some of us like our own movies. The issues on the job, with our spouses, or tension with loved ones—in a sick, twisted way, we enjoy all of it, and don’t know how to live life without those “things.” Instead of perpetuating the cycle, explore ways that YOU can help resolve the issue (or issues) that blocks you and the other party from peace.

3. Acknowledge That Failure is Simply a Lesson To Be Learned, Not a Road Block To Success
Failures, setbacks and mistakes are character builders, that give you the tools you need to grow in the future, ultimately helping you do better…because you know better.

4. Don’t Hold on To Anger
Anger can stunt YOUR personal growth. Are you really going to allow something like that to control you?

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Color OUTSIDE of the Lines
If you want to move to a new city, do it! If you want to take a dance class, but have no experience, who cares—take the class! If you want to date someone outside of your race, girl do it!

6. Celebrating Every Single one of Your Accomplishments
No matter how big (new promotion) or small (lost 2 inches off your waist), celebrate when you reach one of your goals, and plan to accomplish more.

7. Spend Time With Yourself
Have you ever had dinner alone or gave yourself a solo day of beauty? If not, try it. Carving out “Me Time” for yourself is important. You must be in touch with you.

8. Mentor A Young Woman
What better way to give back to the community, than to volunteer time to a young woman who could benefit from learning from your experiences?

9. Step Out On Faith
Everyone preaches, “Let Go, and Let God,” but have you ever really done that? If not, 2012 is the year to make it happen. It’s scary, but it’s freeing.

10. Forgive
Holding on to grudges only hurts you (Hello, Janet Hubert). Understand that while you’re putting yourself through an emotional ringer, the other party is probably not concerned.

11. Do Something That You’ve Been Putting Off

12. Fill Your Spiritual Cup
Whether you go to church every Sunday, or choose to attend Bedside Baptist, find something that feeds your soul…an Iyanla Vanzant book works too.

13. Let Stress Motivate You, Not Debilitate You
Don’t allow stress to break you down. If work is stressing you out, figure out what you need to do to make changes. It could mean you have to ask your boss for what you need—reasonable needs of course.

14. Take a Vacation Somewhere That You’ve Never Been Before
Whether it be Arkansas or Zaire, if you want to go…GO!

15. Take Charge of Your Physical and Mental Health
Why are black women so opposed to going to seeing a professional for help? Sometimes just going to church is not enough.

16. Make Honesty and Transparency Your Number One Policy
Men lie, but ladies, we do too. Not to mention, many of us keep secrets that have the ability to really hurt the ones we love if they are not exposed early on.

17. Fall In Love
All men were not made to dog you out. Realize that if you go into a situation putting out that type of energy, that is exactly what the universe will give you.

18. Girl, Get Your Money RIGHT!
As much as we all like to splurge on a good pair of shoes (Louboutin fanatic here!) or a where-did-you-get-that-from handbag, this year make a decision to save and invest your money. This might mean researching and meeting with a capable financial adviser.

19. View Life As A Journey And Not A Comparative Process
So what your best girlfriend got the husband, house and kids before you did, that doesn’t mean you won’t get that same thing—maybe their are some character attributes that you need to gather to really be prepared for all of that. Everything is predestined, and if you believe that, you won’t find yourself stressing over what your neighbor has compared to what you have.

20. Give Thanks Because Anything Else Is Simply Complaining

And the journey continues….